Angel Kisses

My 5 year old angel

My sweet little five year old boy, M, has a darling habit of giving me angel kisses.  When he hasn't seen me for a while, he roam the house until he finds me and say, "Hi Mom", then plants an angel kiss on me wherever he can reach, sometimes my arm if I'm sitting down, or my belly if I'm standing up. He'll give me a quick hug and then be on his way again to do whatever it is that little boys do.
This angel's smile just lights up my life. Another bit of angel love that he shares with me is at bedtime.  After prayers and two songs (always the same two songs that he sings as fast as he can), he gives me a big, super tight hug and a kiss. Then as I pull away, he says, "last hug", "last kiss" and gives me another. Oh, how I love this little boy.

If he would just stay little...

K, April 20, 2012, 9lbs 13 oz

 Our sweet K was born 3 1/2 weeks ago.  He was so "tiny" on his birthday.  Though compared to most babies he was really big. He has already outgrown most of the newborn clothes I had ready for him. His newborn cloth diapers that seemed so huge that first day home from the hospital now barely squeeze around his middle.  I've had to get out the 3-6 month size box and add it to my stash.  My wonderful mom and her good friend made these adorable Onesie's for K and asked me to take a picture of him in them each month.  So here he is on his birthday and next week I'll already be taking his picture in his "One Month" Onesie.  I guess after watching the other 7 children grow so quickly I should be used to how fast these babies grow, but that doesn't stop me longing for them to "just stay little..."

Sweet baby in the hospital bassinet

Last Time Ever

K, April 20, 2013

Our 8th child, K was born Saturday.  He's beautiful, with black hair and deep blue eyes: he has captured our hearts.  As I went through the labor and birth, I couldn't help thinking that "This was the last time ever I would have to do this." 
Late last night (or was it early morning?) I was holding him in my arms after feeding and changing and feeding him again.  I was downstairs looking at some of my favorite websites because I didn't want to wake up S.  I realized that K had fallen back asleep quite a while earlier and that I really should go back to bed and sleep myself, but I didn't want to.  I thought to myself, "This is the last time ever that I will be holding my 4 day old son."
I finally made it back to bed and soon it was time to start a new day.  I realized that with so many "last time evers" looming on my horizon, I needed to make some resolutions to help me cherish them.
So now, I've decided to not complain about being tired because I've up all night with the baby, or sick kids, or restless kids, or a child who has had a nightmare. I will enjoy those late-night (or early-morning) one-on-one bonding moments with my children and not wish them away or "past that stage".  I will take naps during the day instead of cleaning or running errands so I won't get cranky and irritated just because I'm tired. I can sleep through the night later when they've grown up.
I've decided to never stress about how clean (or unclean) the house is because I chose to spend my time holding or playing or helping or talking to my children.  I will no longer apologize to guests, or even feel embarrassed about the condition of my house.  I can clean later, when they are all in school.
I've decided not to get upset with my husband when he gets home from work and plays with the boys instead of taking out the garbage or doing other mundane chores that I don't want to do myself.  I realize that he makes a huge sacrifice to get up early and go to work each weekday.  He misses so many of the "firsts" (and "lasts") that our children experience just so that I can stay home and experience them.  There have been days when he has gotten up before the children and left for work and not returned home again until after they were in bed.  I've rarely had a day like that where I couldn't be near my children. I'm so blessed to have been able to be a full-time mother for 19+ years because of the hard work, dedication, and sacrifice of my husband as he provides for our family. I have taken down the "honey-do" list for him and have decided that what he needs to do more than anything is to spend time with our children, letting them know he loves them and helping them learn how to grow into wonderful men, just like he is.  The house will get fixed up later, as he teaches them the skills to do it.

I've decided not to whine about never getting take vacations away from my children.  As a couple, we

 have only left our children on about 3 or 4 occasions during the last 20+ years of our marriage and I used to be jealous of all the couples I knew who frequently got to take vacations together without their children, but no more.  As much as I cherish the time I have alone with my eternal companion, I also realize the time I have with our children will soon be over and gone.  It is precious and I am grateful that I haven't missed very many days of their hugs, kisses, growth, good-nights, and songs.
Even with the days that are struggles,  filled with temper-tantrums, fights, and discipline, even with all the weight of responsibility for feeding, dressing, cleaning, teaching, etc. that raising children brings, I will not whine about it, but look for the joyful moments that each day brings. we'll be alone later and can be on vacation when we retire.
I pray that one day when I'm in my 60's or 70's, my now 5-day old son will let me have the blessing of holding his 5-day old child.  When that day arrives, many years from now, but really just around the corner, I will probably think "This is the last time ever..."
Until then, I have many firsts to look forward to experiencing, not only with K but with all of my children. If you my readers, friends and family, happen to be there and catch me falling into the negative traps that sometimes ensnare us in our vulnerable moments, please, I beg you to gently lean over and whisper in my ear that "This is the last time ever..." and I'll know what you are talking about and I'll look for the joyful moments again.

Ironing and Socks

The Ironing Pile

When you live with 7 men/boys, it seems there's always 2 chores that never seem to go away: ironing and matching socks.  Ironing has never been my favorite chore.  When I was about 13 years old, I remember visiting my church leader's home.  She had her ironing board out in one of her spare rooms and had been ironing her husband's shirts.  In those days, fabrics needed to be ironed a lot more than modern fabrics do, and I always dreaded ironing my skirts and blouses.  Usually, I put the chore off until I needed a certain item, then I would iron just that item and never really tackle the "pile".  I told my leader how much I hated ironing and how I hoped my husband would iron his own clothes.  She taught me something wonderful that day, which has always stuck with me.  She answered by telling me that she really didn't like ironing either, however, she LOVED her husband more than anything and she always wanted him to look nice and make a good impression on people, so she didn't mind ironing his shirts, knowing this would save him time and make him look his best.  Her words have repeated in my mind over the years as I married and began having children.  I don't like ironing, but I do LOVE them, so I try to keep up with the ironing so they all look their best.
 
Since my boys all wear a white shirt each week to church, and then usually put it in the laundry after one wearing, it seems that my pile just grows and grows.  My husband and older boys all know how to iron their own shirts, but they don't usually have time to do the chore.  So about once a month, I try to tackle the pile.  I put on some uplifting music and go to work. I like doing this chore on a Sunday morning, because it's usually needful for that days' church service, and also it can be a peaceful chore. My husband spends Sunday morning playing with the boys or reading, so I have quiet time in my room to tackle the ironing.

Odd Sock Drawer

The sock monster pile is another chore that I really don't enjoy.  I just don't understand how so many socks get through the laundry without a match!  I always keep the unmatched socks in a drawer next to my bed.  When a matching sock comes through the laundry, sometimes I can match it up right away, but usually it just sits there until I decide I want to close the drawer again and finally tackle the pile.  Occasionally, I can get one of the boys to help me, and I enjoy working and talking with whichever boy is with me.  In the end, we usually have a lot of socks that still don't have a mate, and I put them in a bag for a matching day at the end of the year.  If they don't have a match at that final round, they get thrown away.  It might not be the most efficient system, but it works for our family, and I suppose one day, when they are all grown with families of their own I might even miss these chores. 

Another Happy Mother's Day Morning

Mitchell, Mommy and Elijah

My  Heaven 7

What does Mother's Day look like at your house?  For  me, it's waking up early to change the baby, then handing him over to my wonderful husband. He takes the baby and wakes the other kids, while I try to go back to sleep.  Actually, I'm secretly listening to the noises and conversation in the kitchen as they work together to make a "surprise" breakfast in bed for me.  I love to hear them talk and whisper and tell each other to sign the card and how to cut the strawberries just so.  Then, they quietly stampede up the stairs, burst into my room singing "Mother, I Love You" and wake me up.  How I love it when the children all climb into bed with me to watch me open my cards and smell my flowers.  After a while, they all go downstairs to get their own breakfast, while I eat mine.  Today, Elijah cuddled in bed with me as I ate.  He reread all the cards.  Now that he can read, it is so interesting to watch him choose things to read and ask me questions about what he is learning.  I thing the beginning reader is one of the best "stages" of childhood, as their curiosity is peeked over and over again. Jacob was just sent up to bring down the breakfast tray and the baby was brought up to play with toys in my room.  Some of the boys are outside playing on the trampoline and Stuart and the others are cleaning up breakfast, while I finally am blessed with a few moments to myself, to record how full my heart feels when I look into the eyes of my children and see their love and affection for me.  I'm not sure what I've done to deserve that love, but I'm grateful for it and grateful that God has sent each one of these precious children to my home for me to love and learn from and be a mommy to.

Peaches in Quarts and a Bun in the Oven

On Thursday, I got a good deal for peaches at the grocery store (.50/lb) and bought 25 lbs. That night, Stuart and I taught the kids how to can them. It was a lot of fun and we canned 16 quarts. I'd like to get more, but that sale is over. I'll be looking for deals on apples and pears next.
On Friday, we took the boys on a field trip to the Air and Space Musuem. There are more than 300 aircraft there. The most impressive in my mind was the Air Force 2, otherwise known as Freedom 1 because it brought home the hostages from Iran in 1980. I remember seeing it land on the news back then, so it was cool to see it in person. Stu and the boys were fascinated by all the planes and missiles etc. I enjoyed watching their reactions.
On Saturday, we relaxed. I have a sore throat and so does Diane, along with a slight fever and runny nose. Stuart did take some of the boys to play paintball in the morning. In the afternoon, I took enough tylenol to feel well enough to run errands. I then went to the Dollar store and bought 7 pregnancy tests.
This morning, while the family was still asleep, I took those tests and sure enough, they were all postive. I wrote a note to Stuart, quoting Psalms 127:3-5 and showed him the tests when he woke up. He was as happy as I am. We are so thrilled and feel so blessed by the Lord to send us another one of his choice spirits to love and care for on this earth. We pray for his guidance in raising our children and providing for them. We definitely need a new van now and probably a new house too.
~Heidi